Excerpt: 

(12:19)  “A woman named Lori shares her experience of marrying a man she wasn’t initially attracted to, but over time, their relationship grew stronger. Pearl reflects on how many women end up in relationships without the “butterflies” or intense attraction they expected, leading to long-term marriages despite initial doubts.”

Here’s a summary of key points from the transcript of the video “This Is Why Modern Women Are GIVING UP On Their Type | Pearl Daily”:

• (00:00) Pearl talks about a woman from her school who had a specific “type” when dating, but later dated a man who didn’t match her usual type. This shift prompted Pearl to reflect on women’s attraction and commitment dynamics.
• (00:32) At a day party, the woman cheats on her boyfriend with an ex, revealing her lack of genuine attraction to her current partner. Pearl highlights that many women struggle with maintaining long-term attraction to their partner if they don’t match their “type.”
• (01:08) Women often face a dilemma where their “type” doesn’t work for long-term commitment. Pearl uses TikTok to show how women are acknowledging the need to compromise on their type in order to marry.
• (01:45) The concept of hypergamy is introduced, where women tend to date only a small percentage of men. Pearl mentions data showing women are more likely to be attracted to a limited group of men, particularly high-status ones.
• (02:24) Pearl refers to dating app data, noting that women tend to swipe right only on a small percentage of men, supporting the idea that women share men (with a few top-tier men getting most of the attention).
• (03:33) The rise of modern dating dynamics has led to a scenario where there are more women in relationships than men, possibly because women are “sharing” men or dating significantly older men.
• (04:11) Pearl compares modern dating to past eras, claiming that women’s struggle with relationships is a modern issue and that feminism, at its core, has allowed women to avoid men they aren’t attracted to, such as through access to birth control and no-fault divorce.
• (05:31) She discusses how, when given the freedom, many women prioritize sexual freedom over marriage, highlighting a trend where women, even if they aren’t attracted to a man, may still engage in sex work or short-term relationships instead.
• (06:08) Pearl references the “three-date rule” from pickup artists, explaining that men may leave if there isn’t genuine attraction or sex after three dates. This approach is critiqued as a response to women not being attracted to men enough for commitment.
• (10:25) The video references Rollo Tomassi’s writing on the “desire dynamic,” explaining that genuine attraction in relationships cannot be negotiated. Negotiated desire (such as through chores or favors) leads to resentment and lackluster intimacy, which is unsatisfying for both partners.
• (12:19) A woman named Lori shares her experience of marrying a man she wasn’t initially attracted to, but over time, their relationship grew stronger. Pearl reflects on how many women end up in relationships without the “butterflies” or intense attraction they expected, leading to long-term marriages despite initial doubts.
• (14:09) Pearl closes by discussing how, in modern dating, there are not enough men that women are attracted to for long-term relationships, leading to compromises in partner selection. She asks men whether they would be content in a marriage where their partner wasn’t initially attracted to them.