What does Respect
Mean to a Man?
Part 2
Looking at Disrespect from a male perspective
Addressing FEMALE DISRESPECT:
Why this is essential to relationship success
Disrespect towards men often begins with subtle, deniable actions that escalate over time, making early intervention crucial to prevent more significant issues.
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Addressing FEMALE DISRESPECT:
Why this is essential to relationship success
Understanding Disrespect as a Process
- Disrespect often develops gradually rather than appearing suddenly, making it crucial to recognize its earlier, more covert forms. Small behaviors that may seem innocuous can be early indicators of larger issues.
- The subtle nature of disrespect often allows for plausible deniability, making it important to address these small behaviors before they escalate into significant problems.
“The best predictor of overt disrespect is covert disrespect.”
Examples of Disrespect in Context
- Situations like high schools and prisons vividly illustrate the gradual process of acquiring power through disrespect. Bullies typically start with minor infractions, testing their targets to gauge how far they can push their limits.
- Initial subtle interactions, like bumping into someone, serve as a test. A submissive response signals a potential victim, while a strong response can deter further aggression.
“A subtle test could involve bumping into their target and seeing how he responds.”
Addressing the Miscommunication of Disrespect
- Women may not always recognize how their behaviors are perceived as disrespectful to men. This can stem from differing definitions of respect between genders.
- A practical method offered to evaluate a behavior’s respectfulness involves considering if a similar interaction would occur in a professional setting, such as with a boss.
“Would I say the same thing in the same way to my boss if I wanted to keep my job?”
The Impact of Disrespect on Relationships
- Disrespect can be detrimental to women’s romantic relationships, as men with self-respect and options will not tolerate it. Consequently, women may risk valuable relationships when engaging in disrespectful behaviors.
- Furthermore, for women, love is intricately linked to respect; thus, continued disrespect can erode feelings of love and emotional connection.
“It is not possible for a woman to love a man she does not respect.”
Summary from
Respect from a good man’s point of view:
Respect is the life blood of a man’s soul.
(When you Reduce or Remove the Blood, you reduce or remove the life flow in a man’s soul.)
- Respect is the life giving force that the Creator designed men to run on.
- Respect is the God-given foundation a upon which a man can build his heavenly relationships, and the spiritual home that connects them together (without which he can build nothing).
- Respect is like the God-given fuel that empowers a man to give his ALL for the ones he loves.
Disrespect causes the relationship to be drained if it’s life giving blood. It erodes the foundation upon which the soul can build its commitment. It becomes like a cancer in the walls of the house, corrupting the very air one breathes. It rots the place called home. It causes sickness and disease to prosper. Disrespect undermines everything that is good, and pure, and holy, and true in the life blood of the relationship.
The Value of a Relationship is determined by the amount of Respect that has been deposited into the Relationship, and the degree by which that Respect has been tested and proved faithful, even in the midst of hard times, and difficult circumstances.
- The greater the testing, the deeper the value, the higher the honor, the more valuable the relationship–the more willing one is ready to sacrifice everything for it.
- The lesser the respect, the lower the value, the smaller the honor, the more shallow the affection, the less one will be willing to sacrifice everything for it.
Removing respect from the man in a relationship is like removing … his testicles.
Removing respect from the man, is like removing his perfectly good liver and kidneys, and expecting him to be exceptional — inspite of his unseen, yet life crushing handicap.
[NOTE: Outwardly: It is not immediately apparent that a man’s kidney’s or liver have been removed. That would be a hidden handicap. In such a pickle, a man won’t die immediately from the loss of organ function, but without a living and active liver or kidney, his life will not last long.
The parallel to respect in a relationship is similar: The soul of the relationship will die shortly, though not immediately. It can last awhile, but it will not last long. Respect to the soul of a relationship is like oxygen to the lungs of a man.]
Some women …
- Some Women show more respect to their animals, than they do to their husbands.
- Some Women show more respect to their girl friends and neighbors, to their bosses and total strangers than they do to their husbands—with whom they have an eternal covenant.
- Some women give more attention and invest more emotional energy: in fantasy/romance novels, Facebook friends, and fantasize about one night stands, than they invest into keeping their vow: to serve God, and serve their husband, and invest themselves in the eternal covenant preordained by God and Christ, to be kept until death do they part. Sadly, this delusion is supported by a vast social network of worldly friends, and anti-Christ counselors. )
- Some Women show more care and concern to their flowers and decorative plants, than they do to their own husbands. (Sadly, these women are oblivious to their own lack of irrational emotional dissonance, and discidence.)
- Some women deeply believe they have better relationships with their cats, than with their husbands. (Sadly, delusion sets in when women refuse to bring respect to the table, when they refuse to “show up” with respect in their marriage relationship.)
Why do so many woman despise the covenant they have made?
Have they been deceived just as Eve was deceived in the garden of Eden?
Many have been deceived into believing that it is their husband’s job to make them happy. So, when they feel unhappy, they look for ways to blame their husband for their unhappiness. This is what many women don’t realize about their own deception.
Many women covertly sabotage the foundation of respect needed to build a healthy relationship with their husbands. As such they play a dangerous game.
1 Every wise woman buildeth her house:
but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.2 He that walketh in his uprightness feareth the LORD:
but he that is perverse in his ways despiseth him.
Many foolish women use their own emotional distress as proof that their husbands are mistreating them. Therefore they use disrespect as a weapon against their husbands. They play the Victim Card. And they play the Blame Card. They feel perfectly comfortable building their House of Cards in camp victim. What they don’t realize is this: that God sees everything they do and will reward them according to their deeds. The wisdom of God accurately teaches that a foolish woman will tear down her own house of cards she has built with their own hands. Of course this is ignorance on steroids, but it happens every day, and seems to be the confirmed and accepted as the Norm in our society. This also has been predicted by the word of God.
And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.
But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.
Foolish woman actively seek ways blame their husbands for their own feelings of unhappiness within their marriage covenant. As a consequence, they treat their husbands all the more disrespectfully. They prefer playing the victim card, and building a Rolodex of reasons to support blaming their husbands, for the rising contempt they feel, than for taking responsibility for the covenant they themselves entered into, but have weakened and sometimes crippled due to the false assumptions and false expectations (idols).
Foolish women that remove respect from their marriage relationshipsthey themselves have filled their minds and their hearts with their own , broken, and discarded–like cat poop out of the kitty litter box.
A parable about showing up with no respect in the marriage covenant.
What will predictably happen over time, through the erosion of the repitition of friction in the relationship? Like little grains of sand eroding away a hole in the rock? Like solid granite eroding away? By the constant friction of irratating sand pebbles: Such is the pattern and work of removing respect (or the constant wearing away of it) in a marriage covenant relationship.
Disrespect in a marriage (or in any respect based relationship) is like asking the husband to carry the wife up a long and steep Hill, filled with dangers, traps, snares, and hidden IED’s with the husbands leg blown off. Little does the husband know: Who set the IED? Why did they set it? For what purpose? and, To what end???? Sadly, the wife knows but, chooses to deny it. And never will she admit it, except by some miracle from God.
A hidden IED is an Improvised Explosive Device, aka, a hidden Roadside/Landmine bomb. These hidden bombs are planted by the enemy, with the purpose of destroying the enemy’s ability to move about, to fight, to live in fear, to get resources needed to win the war, etc. But often IED’s cause casualties to ‘friendlies.” In other words, they don’t care about who their hurt, even for the life of the person who set them.
a disrespectful spouse, and are planned to blow up at the precise weakest time of vulnerablity in the marriage relationship.). Then saying, “I’m sorry you got hurt.”
Sometimes in a relationship: Once the husband’s leg is fully blown off, the wife will sometimes, create a makeshift tourniquet, and apply it to the upper part of the thigh still daggling from the husbands body.
Even Though the stump is still bleeding: the wife still makes demands of the husband to carry her, all the same, even in the midst of the shame, in the midst of the pain, in the midst of the contempt, in the midst of the confusion of gaslighting, and disregard, she still feels entitled to her Full Quota of goods and services that she obviously deserves.
halfway up the thigh that is bleeding profusely: You demand that he carry you on his back to the nearest bus station, because you sprained your ankle,and you have to get to your yoga class.
Only worse than that. After stumbling, trying to carry you and all your extra weight and baggage, your shame him for not performing up to your standards and expectations.
That’s actually how some men feel and are treated in relationships that should be based on Respect, but actually based on something else: A hidden agenda.
And yes, that hidden agenda is based on a plan of destruction.
And yes, that agenda is revealed in the word of God: See for yourself …