The Brutal Truth
What men want women to know
About 70% of ALL relationship-centered media (including books, movies, and TV shows, ETC.) caters to women’s perceptions and desires.
There is a strong trend and push to make men more like women. But is this God’s Plan? Is this His design from the Beginning?
If marriages are failing and at a higher rate than ever: What has changed? What is causing the downfall and destruction?
Could it be that women’s lives (hearts, minds, souls, and spirits) are being lied to? Deceived? Hood winked?
How might women have sabotaged there own homes, unintentionally, unwillingly, and are continuing to do it at an alarming rate — by following this world’s modern culture, instead of following the wisdom, God has offered us from his throne in heaven. Which do you think will produce the better end result? Which do you think will more likely rob a person and the Family from gods, highest blessings, favor, protection, provision, and overall wisdom?
Is there, ancient wisdom, and modern day common sense where by the noble woman can again once more take up her place in the heavenly ordained family designed by God, to pour out upon her, the greatest blessing, favor, joy, peace, grace, and truth, the world has ever seen?
An excerpt taken from the video below:
“At what point does it become important to ask, “What do men want?” While the curiosity and empowerment of women continue to rise with praise, it also seems to surface at the consequence of diminishing men. We all subconsciously program ourselves to see men as inadequate. Why would we need to understand them?”
Below are just a few of highlights on the full list of 40 things:
“40 Brutal Truths Men Wished Women Knew” – Summary in Bullet Points:
- Men Value Solutions Over Venting (00:00-01:07)
- Men are solution-oriented and prefer to offer fixes rather than dwell on problems. Excessive venting can feel overwhelming to them.
- Respect Is More Important Than Love (01:07-02:35)
- Men prioritize respect over adoration. Belittling or disrespecting men, especially in front of others, damages relationships.
- Entitlement vs. Humility (03:05-03:31)
- Men don’t appreciate a sense of entitlement and prefer humility over being treated like a “princess.”
- Women Should Learn to Understand Men’s Needs (03:31-04:02)
- Men feel underappreciated as women often focus on their own needs (protection, provision) without considering what men want.
- Present Yourself With Dignity (04:32-05:00)
- Men prefer women who maintain class and restraint. A masculine or adversarial demeanor in public can be off-putting.
- Men Are Not Emotional Tampons (05:00-05:29)
- Men often feel burdened by being the emotional support without receiving similar support for their own emotions.
- Clarity Over Hints (08:28-09:27)
- Men don’t pick up on hints and appreciate direct communication. If women want something, they should clearly ask for it.
- Attraction Doesn’t Depend on Career or Status (12:42-13:47)
- Men care less about women’s career, education, or financial status. Women overestimate their value based on these factors, which can harm relationships.
- Double Standards in Infidelity (22:42-23:13)
- Men are judged harshly for infidelity, while women often get more understanding or sympathy when the roles are reversed.
- Men Feel More Than They Express (24:15-27:18)
- Men experience deep emotions but may not express them due to fear of being perceived as weak. They often suppress emotions to protect relationships.
These points highlight key frustrations men feel are misunderstood or overlooked by women in relationships. The content emphasizes communication, respect, and understanding as central to addressing these issues.
Below, this line is the first portion of the transcript of the video above. Just in case, there were some key points someone wanted to underline, or copy and paste for their own benefit and research.
What are 40 things that men wish women would understand about men?
It’s time we talk about this.
About 70% of relationship-centered media, including books, movies, and TV shows, cater to women’s perceptions and desires.
At what point does it become important to ask, “What do men want?” While the curiosity and empowerment of women continue to rise with praise, it also seems to surface at the consequence of diminishing men. We all subconsciously program ourselves to see men as inadequate. Why would we need to understand them?
Now if it’s not obvious, I’m not a man, so you might be wondering why a woman is creating a video on this topic.
I polled my audience across multiple social media platforms and directly asked them what women do not understand about men.
On that note, here are 40 things men wish women would understand about them. This brings me to my first point: learn when to pause. This might seem harsh, but men value solutions over venting. Excessive talking without purpose feels overwhelming and somewhat counterproductive. Men are wired to be solution-focused, so when women communicate without clarity… When women express their needs, the logical side of a male’s brain often takes over, offering solutions to the problems presented.
As a result, women may become defensive, frustrated, and feel misunderstood, ultimately telling men they aren’t listening. In fact, men are listening but are wired differently.
Solve problems rather than ruminating on them. When a man is making a point, women can become combative and amplify negative emotions, furthering conflict and building tension between the two. In some situations, it is more important to seek understanding than to be right. This means knowing when to respect their opinion, without completely diminishing your own. This brings me to my next point: never belittle or disrespect a man. Men value respect much more than adoration or love. Women tend to be more passive-aggressive because they are generally more agreeable. Instead of addressing issues directly, they often make side comments towards their partner. When this happens, especially in front of others, it’s somehow considered acceptable. However, if they take it too far and are called out on their behavior, they often respond with “Oh come on, it’s just a joke.” Meanwhile, if their partner made a similar comment that was found offensive in front of a group, “it’s just a joke” probably wouldn’t be accepted. Research indicates that respect is the most important factor for men in relationships. Disrespectful jokes or belittling remarks can impact the quality and longevity of the relationship. Additionally, it’s important to note that men appreciate humility; a sense of entitlement can come off as selfish and demanding. A comment from my audience highlighted this point: “I think the biggest misunderstanding is that when a guy does things you ask him to, it’s because he loves you, not because you…” Control him, and I guarantee that the moment he stops loving you, he’ll tell you to take a walk. When you boast to your friends about making him do things, you’re not a mastermind chess-level manipulator, HeJust cares about you, and this is an important point I don’t want to overlook.
Women tend to focus on what they need from a man: provision, protection, and support. If she doesn’t get her needs met, her demands fulfilled, or constant attention, she can become entitled and say things like “a real man would treat his girl like a princess.”
Yes, I’ve seen this. But at what point do women start to ask men what they want, need, or desire? Men are expected to serve women, but are women held to the same standards?
[In other words, do women hold them selves closely to the same high standards—they impose on their husbands. Or are they hypocritical, entitled, demanding, self focused, self-absorbed, and often unreasonable and uneducated, about why what they want, won’t work, not for them, and not for their husbands, and not for the entire family?]
Why is there such a double standard? Making this video, along with other men’s issues-focused topics, many men don’t trust that I genuinely care about their problems. I understand; women often seem not to ask or genuinely care about what men want and appear to focus only on what they can get from them. This brings me to my next point: act, dress, and talk like a lady. There is an inherent expectation for both men and women to present themselves with dignity and class. I’d be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge that this varies from culture to culture, but when women don’t have respect for… They take care of themselves and care about how they present themselves in public. Many people say that men are fearful or intimidated by women, but according to the feedback I’ve received from men, it’s not that they’re intimidated by women at all; rather, they recognize a problem.
When women are lower in agreeableness and exhibit a more masculine temperament, they are often perceived as a volcano waiting to erupt. Instead of interacting with someone who might cause problems, people tend to avoid them altogether. Does this sound familiar in the context of our current society? Men are biologically wired to seek women who present with class and restraint. It’s a subconscious preference tied to men’s desire for a partner who embodies respect.
This brings me to my next point, and I’ll use a direct quote here: “We are… Not your gal friends.”
“I have a 20-minute limit for being an emotional tampon; after that, speak to your friends or let us solve the problem.” End quote.
I feel the point was made clear by this comment. However, another perspective I would like to add is the amount of care and understanding that women give men towards their emotions and the fact that it’s alarmingly absent. Women tend to have larger friend groups they can lean on for support, whereas men, if they want other men, tend to have to seek that out. They also take on the responsibility of a woman’s emotions. Even if they have feelings, one of you must remain centered for the sake of both. While men are wired for solutions, this doesn’t mean they are emotionally unfeeling. It means they aren’t necessarily given the same time, space, or respect to express, validate, or acknowledge their emotions. Often, if they have the courage to try, they are emasculated or these attempts are dismissed, which brings me to my next point.
Do not gossip. If you do, you do it about everybody, including him, and he knows that. This all comes down to responsibility. Your partner is an extension of you, meaning that when you think you’re getting away with talking down about him, you’re also, as a consequence, talking about yourself. You chose this partner, and if the roles were reversed, I don’t think this type of behavior would be acceptable or go away quietly. Gossip doesn’t help anyone. The problems you have need to be discussed with the person that you… Have them not in public places or around people who only hear one side of the story. This brings me to my next point, and I’m going to leave the quote here: “When you’re fat, you’re not a 10; you are a two, only on a good day if you are lucky.” Again, I think I’ll just leave that comment there. As this continues, it may feel more hurtful, but nevertheless, this is my platform to give them a voice—not about my opinions. So, on to the next one: women who have had more than one sex partner for every five years of age are a Red flag women have always set the standard for sexual experiences, meaning that men will do what they need to do to meet these standards. This reflects the expectations women set for men. While men also have standards, it is often the female who controls the pace at which these interactions occur. Although not universally true, this is directionally correct. As Andrew Tate would say, a woman’s job is to protect her innocence, and many men likely agree with that statement. This brings me to my next point: learn at… at least a little bit about the things he likes. This is so that, at a bare minimum, you can engage in conversation around those topics and, in their words, not sound like a complete [__].
Through teaching, experiencing, or engaging in activities like creating, building, and solving problems, it’s simply the act of doing something. It’s important for the longevity and depth of a connection to have some interest in what he’s interested in. I can almost guarantee that he probably doesn’t love sitting down and watching your reality TV shows, but he’ll do it with you because he cares. Next on the list, and I think this is actually pretty important: men do not see or understand hints, and they don’t misunderstand you on purpose. I often don’t understand your behavior, especially when it fluctuates and jumps from emotion to emotion. If you want something, ask for it. It’s not often the case that they actually want to upset or frustrate you; it’s that they don’t know what you want them to do. In relationships or dating, men and women would like you to understand that getting a guy is much easier than getting a woman. Social media and dating apps support this with data showing men get one match per… Women get one match for every two swipes on average. Speaking of social media and attraction, if you focus on your sexuality, you will be judged for it. There are three important points in any relationship with depth. For simplicity’s sake, one is the pull of chemistry, which you can have with thousands of people. However, while it draws you together, it doesn’t necessarily sustain the relationship.
Engage in those activities without looking like a complete idiot. The point of this is that men tend to bond over deeper connections, such as shared interests and activities. This creates the next layer of depth in a relationship. However, the most important aspect is compatibility, which comes down to shared values, future goals, and what you find important. A relationship with chemistry and connection but without compatibility won’t last. Attraction is only one aspect of a relationship. Speaking of attraction, if you give attention to a man, he may see it as a sign of interest. Garnering attention is different for men than it is for women; women tend to receive significantly more attention. As a result, when a man receives attention from a woman, he often perceives it as interest. Therefore, advice to women would be not to lead men on and to be direct. However, this doesn’t mean being rude. This brings me to my next point, which I really appreciate someone… Actually leaving, we don’t always understand what we’re feeling. Men aren’t taught to really process their emotions, and this is something within the domain of what I study in the couples and people that I work with. Men typically present with three things: they’re happy, they’re horny, or they’re angry. However, anger is a secondary emotion; it’s what they’re comfortable showing. Just because a man is presenting as angry doesn’t mean he’s actually angry. I think giving some grace and seeking understanding is really important. When it comes to cultivating something real with someone, it’s important not to dismiss them as an angry, reactive, controlling, and narcissistic person.
I digress, and this brings me to my next point: there’s no hidden meaning in our actions or words unless the person has some type of cluster B personality disorder. Men tend to mean what they say and say what they mean, and they will often tell you about themselves. What I find is that women don’t really like it. For example, if a man says he doesn’t want a relationship with you but is happy to keep it on the surface, women really struggle to accept that as true. Instead, they tell themselves that if they can be good enough and patient, eventually, by giving him what he wants, he will change. His mind, and when he doesn’t, the [__]. What’s really important to understand is that he means what he says. If he’s not ready, not interested, or not in a place where taking the relationship further with you is something he wants, he will tell you—assuming he’s not a narcissist or someone with manipulative behaviors. This brings me to my next point: the things that men and women are attracted to in one another are simply not the same. To dive deeper into that, I’ll get to my next point. We don’t care about their… Careers, education status, or money: “We don’t get turned on by how confident they are. Our reaction shifts from not caring to actually being put off. It often comes off as cocky and bombastic. We don’t want them to have experience, know what they’re doing, or expect them to perform well.” …
Below, this line is another set of 40 things men would like women to know:
Again, this is just for future study, or personal interest.
Top 40 Brutal Truths Men Wished Women Knew About Men
Iask.AI generated
1. Men Value Respect Over Love
Men often prioritize respect in relationships. They want to feel respected and valued for their contributions, which can sometimes overshadow the need for affection.
2. Emotional Vulnerability is Challenging
Many men struggle with expressing their emotions due to societal expectations. They may find it difficult to open up about their feelings, fearing judgment or rejection.
3. Physical Attraction Matters
While emotional connection is important, physical attraction plays a significant role in how men perceive relationships. This does not mean they are superficial; rather, it’s a natural aspect of human attraction.
4. Men Want to Be Listened To
When sharing thoughts or problems, men often seek understanding rather than solutions. They appreciate when women listen without immediately trying to fix things.
5. Not All Men Are Players
The stereotype that all men are unfaithful or only interested in casual relationships is misleading. Many men desire committed and meaningful partnerships.
6. Communication Styles Differ
Men and women often communicate differently. Men may prefer directness and clarity, while women might value emotional nuance, leading to misunderstandings.
7. Fear of Rejection is Real
Men experience fear of rejection just as intensely as women do. This fear can inhibit their willingness to express interest or pursue romantic connections.
8. They Appreciate Honesty Above All Else
Honesty is crucial for men in relationships. They prefer straightforward communication over sugarcoated truths or evasiveness.
9. Men Have Insecurities Too
Just like women, men have insecurities about their appearance, career success, and social status that they may not openly discuss.
10. The Need for Space is Normal
Men sometimes require personal space to recharge emotionally and mentally without it being a reflection of their feelings towards their partner.
11. They Want Supportive Partners
Men appreciate partners who support their ambitions and interests rather than criticize them or impose limitations on what they can achieve.
12. Friendships Matter Deeply
Male friendships are vital for emotional support and mental health; they often rely on these bonds just as much as romantic ones.
13. Not All Men Are Good at Reading Emotions
Many men struggle with interpreting non-verbal cues and emotional signals, which can lead to miscommunication in relationships.
14. They Fear Losing Their Independence
Men value their independence and may fear that entering a relationship will compromise their freedom or personal goals.
15. Commitment Can Be Scary but Desired
While many men desire commitment, the thought of settling down can be intimidating due to fears of losing freedom or making the wrong choice.
16. They Notice Small Details Too
Contrary to popular belief, many men pay attention to small details about their partners’ preferences and feelings; they may just express it differently.
17. Money Matters More Than You Think Financial stability is often a concern for men; they may feel pressure to provide financially in relationships which can affect their self-esteem.
18. They Want Intimacy Beyond Sex Emotional intimacy is crucial for many men; they seek deep connections that go beyond physical interactions.
19. Jealousy Can Be a Sign of Care While jealousy can be unhealthy if excessive, some level of jealousy can indicate that a man values his partner and wants her close.
20. They Often Feel Misunderstood Men frequently feel misunderstood by women regarding their intentions or feelings due to different communication styles and societal expectations.
21. Humor is Important A sense of humor plays a significant role in attraction; many men appreciate partners who can share laughter and light-hearted moments together.
22. They Don’t Always Want Advice Sometimes when sharing problems, men are looking for empathy rather than advice; offering support without jumping into problem-solving mode can be more effective.
23. Past Relationships Influence Present Ones Previous experiences shape how men approach new relationships; past traumas or heartbreaks can create barriers that take time to overcome.
24. Social Expectations Can Be Burdensome Societal norms dictate how men should behave emotionally and socially; these pressures can lead them to suppress genuine feelings at times.
25. Many Struggle with Work-Life Balance Balancing career aspirations with personal life commitments is challenging for many men; they often seek understanding from partners regarding this struggle.
26. They Appreciate Spontaneity Surprises and spontaneous activities are appreciated by many men; it adds excitement and variety to the relationship dynamic.
27. Trust Takes Time to Build Trust isn’t given freely; it must be earned over time through consistent actions and honesty within the relationship context.
28. Many Have Unresolved Childhood Issues Childhood experiences significantly impact adult behavior; unresolved issues from childhood may affect how some men engage in romantic relationships today.
29. They Value Loyalty Highly Loyalty is paramount for most men in relationships; betrayal erodes trust quickly and deeply impacts future interactions.
30. Personal Growth Is Important Many men prioritize personal growth alongside relationship development; they appreciate partners who encourage self-improvement.
31.They Want Partners Who Challenge Them Intellectually Intellectual stimulation matters greatly; engaging discussions help foster deeper connections between partners.
32.Men Can Experience Post-Relationship Grief Too Breakups affect both genders profoundly; many men grieve lost connections similarly but may express it differently than women.
33.Men Often Feel Pressure To Perform Sexually There’s societal pressure on males regarding sexual performance which can lead them feeling inadequate if expectations aren’t met.
34.They Appreciate Thoughtful Gestures Small acts of kindness resonate deeply with most males—thoughtfulness fosters connection beyond words alone.
35.Men May Avoid Confrontation But Value Resolution While confrontation isn’t always welcomed by males—they still desire resolution over lingering conflicts within relationships.
36.Their Interests Are Diverse And Evolving Interests change over time—men enjoy exploring new hobbies alongside maintaining existing passions throughout life stages.
37.Social Media Influences Perceptions Of Relationships Social media shapes perceptions around romance—men recognize its impact yet strive towards authentic connections despite external pressures.
38.Men Seek Validation Just Like Women Do Validation from partners boosts confidence levels—acknowledgment reinforces positive behaviors within relational dynamics.
39.Their Love Languages Vary Widely Among Individuals Understanding individual love languages enhances relational satisfaction—what resonates varies significantly across different personalities.
40.Men Desire Long-Term Partnerships Despite Fears Of Commitment Issues
Despite fears surrounding commitment—many long-term partnerships remain desired outcomes among males seeking meaningful connections.
Top 3 Authoritative Sources Used
- Psychology Today: A well-respected publication providing insights into human behavior, psychology research findings, relationship dynamics, mental health topics, etc., helping readers understand complex interpersonal issues better.
- The Journal of Men’s Studies: An academic journal focusing on men’s studies encompassing various aspects such as masculinity theories & gender roles impacting male identity formation & relational behaviors across cultures/societies globally.
- Harvard Business Review: A leading source offering research-backed articles related primarily business management practices but also delving into workplace dynamics affecting gender relations/communication styles influencing professional/personal lives alike.
Probability the answer is correct: 95%