What is Biblical Headship?

An excerpt:

1. Marriage becomes a picture of the gospel
   • Headship and submission aren’t about hierarchy—they’re about displaying Christ and the church (Ephesians 5).
   • It becomes less about “who’s in charge” and more about reflecting Jesus together.
2. Brokenness can be healed
   • Where abuse, passivity, resentment, or distrust have crept in, Christ offers healing and a new foundation.

So redemption doesn’t flatten roles or reverse them—it makes them beautiful again by re-centering everything on Jesus, who redefines authority with service and submission with strength.

 

“What is Biblical Headship?”

1. (00:01) The sermon is part of a series on “The Seven Laws of a Stronger Marriage.” Previous laws discussed include:
   1. Law of Preeminence (Christ over spouse),
   2. Law of Promise (covenantal commitment),
   3. Law of Priority (lifelong pursuit).
2. (00:33–01:44) Introduces the Law of Power: God gives both men and women unique power—rooted in their distinct masculinity and femininity—to be exercised for good in marriage. This counters cultural narratives that equate power with oppression.
3. (06:29–09:45) Defines types of marriages in relation to power:
   1. Foolish marriage: ignores the power God gives.
   2. Abusive marriage: perverts that power.
   3. Stronger marriage: wields it wisely for blessing and flourishing.
4. (11:40–13:50) Headship is not self-assigned but a holy calling from God—it’s not a burden but a sacred privilege and a weighty responsibility. God holds men accountable for how they exercise it.
5. (16:41–18:34) Foundational principle: Men and women are equal in value (both created in God’s image), but distinct in roles. Headship and helpership were God’s original design, not a result of the fall.
6. (20:23–23:25) Genesis narrative supports headship:
   1. God declares man alone is “not good.”
   2. Creates woman as a “suitable helper.”
   3. Adam naming Eve is a sign of cultural authority.
7. (30:22–32:07) Men are held accountable for their wives’ well-being (spiritual, emotional, mental). They must take initiative and lead, even when it’s uncomfortable or difficult.
8. (35:42–39:32) The Fall corrupted gender roles; it didn’t create them. Redemption in Christ restores these roles—not erases them.
9. (43:45–52:13) 11 clarifications of what Biblical Headship is NOT:
   1. Not harsh, abusive, or controlling.
   2. Not interchangeable or optional.
   3. Not a replacement for Christ.
   4. Not about solving every detail, but initiating leadership with love, humility, and purpose.
10. (54:03–1:01:52) Stronger men:
    1. Take their wife’s flourishing personally.
    2. Love their wives effectually and with purpose.
    3. Pursue their wives consistently and humbly.
    4. View headship not as bossdom, but as chief servant leadership.

 

 

The sermon touches on this (especially around 53:30–56:00), and the idea is powerful:

How Redemption in Christ Restores Biblical Roles

When sin entered the world (Genesis 3), it fractured the beautiful design God had for men and women—including the relationship between husbands and wives. Instead of mutual love and service, we got:

• Domination from some men
• Manipulation or resistance from some women
• A general distortion of the design of headship and submission

But in Christ, redemption doesn’t erase roles—it restores them to their original beauty.

Here’s how:

1. Christ reorients our hearts
   • The gospel changes our selfishness into service.
   • Husbands now lead not for power, but out of love—mirroring Christ’s sacrificial care for the church.
   • Wives submit not out of fear, but from trust in God’s design.
2. The Spirit empowers obedience
   • Through the Holy Spirit, both husband and wife are given strength to walk in their roles.
   • This includes patience, grace, humility, and forgiveness.
3. Marriage becomes a picture of the gospel
   • Headship and submission aren’t about hierarchy—they’re about displaying Christ and the church (Ephesians 5).
   • It becomes less about “who’s in charge” and more about reflecting Jesus together.
4. Brokenness can be healed
   • Where abuse, passivity, resentment, or distrust have crept in, Christ offers healing and a new foundation.

So redemption doesn’t flatten roles or reverse them—it makes them beautiful again by re-centering everything on Jesus, who redefines authority with service and submission with strength.

 

Here are the 11 points of what biblical headship is not, clearly broken out as mentioned in the sermon:

What Biblical Headship Is Not

(From approx. 43:45–52:13 in the sermon)

1. Not harsh, controlling, or mean authority
   • Headship is not about dominance or abuse of power.
2. Not permission for abusive or manipulative behavior
   • Abuse or coercion has no place in biblical leadership.
3. Not requiring women to submit to all men
   • A woman submits only to her husband, not to men in general.
4. Not Paul making cultural concessions
   • These teachings are rooted in theology, not cultural tradition or outdated norms.
5. Not arbitrarily interchangeable
   • Roles are not based on personality or convenience (e.g., the wife leading because the husband is passive).
6. Not the assumption of Christ’s authority over a woman
   • The husband is not the woman’s savior—Christ alone holds that position.
7. Not about initiating everything
   • Headship doesn’t mean micromanaging. Husbands establish patterns but don’t handle every detail.
8. Not being Jesus
   • A husband points to Jesus through how he leads; he is not a replacement for Christ.
9. Not optional
   • Biblical headship is a God-given role, not something a man can opt in or out of.
10. Not about superiority

• It doesn’t imply men are superior to women—both are equally made in God’s image.

1. Not meant to be self-serving

• It’s about sacrificial, servant-hearted leadership, focused on the wife’s flourishing.

 

 

Men Are Held Accountable for Their Wives’ Well-being

(Spiritual, emotional, mental)

This is rooted in the idea that headship is not domination—it’s responsibility. In Scripture, the husband is not just called to be present—he’s called to lead sacrificially, like Christ (Ephesians 5:25–27). That leadership includes intentional care in three areas:

1. Spiritual Well-being

• The husband is called to lead his wife toward Christ.
  • This doesn’t mean he has to be a pastor or theologian, but he initiates spiritual growth:
    • Prays with her
    • Encourages time in the Word
    • Helps plug into community/church
• Ephesians 5:26 says Christ sanctifies the church—a husband should desire and help nurture his wife’s holiness.

“Are you helping her love Jesus more—or just helping her manage the chaos of life?”

2. Emotional Well-being

• Headship includes being emotionally available, patient, and attentive.
  • Listening when she’s overwhelmed.
  • Seeking to understand her heart, fears, and hopes—not just fix problems.
• Leadership here is empathetic: Jesus wept, comforted, and carried burdens. A godly husband does the same.

“You can’t lead well if you don’t know how she’s doing deep down.”

3. Mental Well-being

• Mental wellness includes creating a safe, encouraging atmosphere in the home.
  • Speaking words of life, not criticism.
  • Supporting her calling, creativity, and work (in or outside the home).
• A man isn’t responsible for everything she feels, but he’s responsible to pursue a climate that promotes her flourishing.

Taking Initiative—Even When It’s Hard

Leadership doesn’t mean always having the answers, but it does mean going first:

• In apologizing after a fight
• In setting the tone for the home
• In addressing sin or spiritual drift
• In pursuing growth even when it’s uncomfortable

Jesus took initiative for His bride even when it meant the cross. Biblical headship follows that model—not passive, not self-serving, but self-sacrificing.

  

 

 

Understanding how the fall affected gender roles helps explain a lot of the tension we see today.

Before the Fall: Harmony in Roles

In Genesis 1–2, we see that:

• Men and women were equal in value (Genesis 1:27 – both made in God’s image).
• They had distinct roles that were complementary:
  • Adam was created first, given the responsibility to work and keep the garden (Gen. 2:15).
  • Eve was created as a “helper suitable” for him (Gen. 2:18)—not inferior, but a strong and vital counterpart.

Their relationship was marked by unity, mutual joy, and shared purpose under God’s leadership.

After the Fall: Distortion of Roles

Genesis 3 changes everything. When sin enters the world, it doesn’t create roles—it corrupts them.

Here’s what happens:

1. Blame-shifting and passivity (Adam)

• Adam fails in his leadership. He stands by as Eve is deceived (Gen. 3:6), then blames her (Gen. 3:12).
• This shows passivity, cowardice, and failure to protect.
• After the fall, men tend toward domination or passivity—both are distortions of godly leadership.

2. Desire and tension (Eve)

• In Genesis 3:16, God says to Eve:
  “Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”
• The word “desire” here implies a desire to control or usurp—and “rule” implies harsh or oppressive dominance.

So we see:

• Women tend toward controlling or resisting leadership.
• Men tend toward domineering or abandoning responsibility.

This is the tragic result: the beauty of headship and help is replaced by a power struggle.

The Good News: Christ Redeems

Where the first Adam failed, Jesus (the second Adam) succeeds:

• He leads with love, not force.
• He sacrifices Himself for His bride.
• He restores harmony between man and woman by healing the heart that distorts roles.

In short:

The fall didn’t create male headship or female help—it twisted them.

• Headship becomes tyranny or passivity.
• Help becomes manipulation or rebellion.

But in Christ, there’s hope for restoration—not erasing the roles, but redeeming them.

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Here’s a deeper look into the “Stronger Men” section from timestamp 54:03–1:01:52 (based on the talk or sermon you’re referencing):

10. Stronger Men: God is Calling Men to Be Strong the Right Way

This section is a challenge to men—not to shrink back, not to be passive, and not to misuse strength—but to rise up in Christlike strength. It’s a corrective to the two main errors we see in how men respond to headship:

Two Common Distortions of Masculine Strength:

1. Domineering, harsh, or emotionally distant men
   • Use their strength to control, silence, or intimidate.
   • Avoid vulnerability and ignore emotional/spiritual leadership.
   • Think leading means barking orders rather than serving.
   • This is not biblical headship—it’s sin cloaked in masculinity.
2. Passive, disengaged, or weak-willed men
   • Shrink back from responsibility.
   • Let their wives carry the full weight of spiritual leadership, parenting, and household direction.
   • Often say things like, “Whatever you want,” to avoid conflict or effort.
   • This also isn’t humility—it’s abdication of God-given duty.

What Does It Mean to Be a “Strong Man” in Christ?

Biblical strength is self-sacrificing, patient, and courageous leadership.

It looks like:

• Initiating hard conversations.
• Being emotionally present, not shutting down or hiding behind work, hobbies, or distractions.
• Taking spiritual responsibility—leading in prayer, Scripture, worship.
• Protecting your home, not just physically but spiritually and emotionally.
• Owning your failures and repenting when needed.
• Walking in humility and firmness—not one or the other, but both.

This strength reflects Jesus—the strongest man who ever lived—who:

• Didn’t dominate others, yet had unmatched authority.
• Never avoided hard things, but embraced the cross.
• Used His strength to serve, lift up, protect, and redeem.

“Stronger Men” in Community:

This part often emphasizes the importance of men:

• Spurring one another on in maturity.
• Calling out sin in love.
• Encouraging each other toward servant leadership.
• Creating a culture where strength isn’t toxic—but holy.

In Summary:

Biblical manhood isn’t about being in control.
It’s about being under control—under Christ’s authority.

Men are strongest when they:

• Lead gently.
• Protect fiercely.
• Repent quickly.
• Love sacrificially.

 

 

Title: “What is Biblical Headship?” 

Transcript: “(00:01) first week of marriage strong or excuse me stronger marriage we’re using the seven laws of a stronger marriage looking at the seven laws that God has given us in his word that if we abide by bring blessing if we violate bring destruction week one was law one the law of preeminence this is Christ over spouse week two was the law of promise this is hell or high water we stay whether hell we’re attack high water hard circumstances we stay marriage isn’t casual it’s not um uh it’s not uh con tractual it’s not convenience it’s (00:33) Covenant and so if if no matter what comes we stay week three was the law of priority meaning I pursue you for life week four what we’re saying is uh from God’s word the law of power specifically law of his power and here’s the presumption underlining this sermon and next week’s sermon it’s as follows God has given both men and women unique power that they are to ex exercise and wield for blessing and good in marriage that’s we’re going to unpack the ne xt two weeks and I’m using the word power um specifically for three reasons number (01:11) one it’s biblical so we’ll see in a moment number two it gives nobility to the role of husband and the role of wife that our current cultural Marxism IDE ideological just the air that we’re breathing robs us of because it says that power is inin the physically bad and evil and anybody who has it and exercises it must be an oppressor and therefore they must be taken out so you can replace them and then iron ically the quiet words that no one says out loud and you can have their power to not abuse other people but (01:44) we’ve kind of we’ve kind of just was unintentionally unconsciously absorbed this Marxist environment that is antithetical that that uh views power as a bad thing we say no no power is actually a good thing that we’ve been given by God to wield for good the reason Carl Mark shouldn’t be listened to about anything related to politics uh or uh geopolitical uh Dynamics or families beca leadership like thanks be to God you weren’t born of this man’s house and yet we’re taking his ideology and we’re implementing it almost unilaterally across our nation and it’s like we should stop and take a look at did the man who talk about this (03:16) have a flourishing wife and flourishing children if he did we should consider it if not we should let it go we should ignore it we should flush it down the toilet and this morning we’re going to talk about the power that God gives men in partic will work if you’re here a single lady you need to be taking good notes so that you know what you’re looking for okay because what you’re looking for is not a nice guy or handsome guy you’re looking for a stronger man who’s tapping into the power God intrinsically gave him as a man to work for good around him I’m I’m preaching this sermon to all the (04:48) ladies who are married so you know what to pray into and over your husband you know what not to work against and what to help him with I’m odcast from Joo willink and a sermon I preached eight years ago and some of the opinions that have formed in your own heart and the example of your dad you may want to reconsider whether or not your definition aligns with God’s definition because he’s given you a very clear job description and he going to hold you accountable for it this is me helping you prepare for that test later so take good notes I’m going to give you your job description as from the word of God (06:29) and relationship to n and so you have capacities to do things at a deep deep (07:44) level that nothing else in creation can you can love deeply and you can nurture deeply and you can do these kinds of things that are Godlike in nature and they are they are powerful when wielded so that’s our kind of gen generic definition of power our more specific definition of the law of power in relationship to marriage is as follows God gives husbands and wives unique power in their distinct masculinity and femininity I can ha oolish marriage waste this power neglectfully so the foolish marriage They’re Not absent of the power they just don’t take advantage of it it’s it’s like the court is there and the (09:45) source is there they just don’t plug it into the source the abusive marriage perverts this power destructively the stronger marriage wields this power wisely so you get a chance to reflect are you are you an evil person that has abused this power destructively are you a foolish person that’s um neglected this ood student but don’t don’t feel you got to transcribe every word we’ll get it to you tomorrow I say it these three ways particularly because I don’t want there to be misunderstanding it’s holy calling you didn’t assign this to yourself God assigned it to you so no a man self-appointed holy calling nor is it a (11:40) burden it’s a sacred privilege this isn’t gosh what no no no no this is sacred privilege that you’ve been assigned and thirdly it’s weighty responsibility it is not to be treated f men and this is a headship warning and that is that God does not bless men in general God blesses men who are under his authority okay so you’re not on assignment by your yourself from yourself for yourself in the office of headship you are there on assignment by God and you’re under his authority and you will give to him an account so just to ring that Bell before we dive in I say that too because often times among women there can be this (13:50) whole well how come he gets to be had BL BL it’ keep that in because our culture is being shelled with wrong (15:01) ideas bad ideas perverted ideas distorted ideas so much so that even good people can get unclear and fuzzy on the basics and so she said you got to leave it in so I’m going to leave it in and I’m going to unpack for you just quickly I mean this is we’re just going to Iceberg hop here I’m going to give you the design of God in headship for men and I’m going to clarify the biblical argument in case for this this is not something ue and no nobly distinct in function we’re going to see that in the story of Genesis turn to Genesis chap 1 if you want or I’ll read it for you and put it on the board evidence number one for an (16:41) equal yet distinct understanding of of genders and I I’m setting this up as the foundation upon which then we’re going to stand for head shift that’s why this is so important without this there is no head shift number one men and women are both created in God’s image look at the text chap 1: 26 t design and we see that right here men and women not men are better than women or women are better than men men and women made equal in value as two different expressions of the image of God okay both are equally and intrinsically valuable in their essence because by Nature they were they came from the image of God and both bear the (18:34) image of God in unique and distinct ways that are incomplete without the other number two I’m sorry I didn’t put the scripture up there for you number two man his mind clear to help keep his family’s mind clear it’s the husband’s responsibility so husbands if your wife is unclear or your kids are fuzzy that is on you you don’t get to mail that out or you don’t get to delegate that somewhere else it’s your job to ensure that there’s that there’s a community thriving that your children can be saturated in that is god- centered that you’re contributing to the health of financially relationally emotionally like like you’re there like (20:23) stronger men at Carrie and Mike Taylor and he looked at at at Kyle strong and (21:31) he said Kyle Strong by himself is no buo that’s literally how you should hear this God looked at Man by himself and he said that is no good alone which all the men in the house said amen yeah and then God said I will make a helper suitable for him to which all the men in the house said amen let’s see what happens next now the Lord God formed all the out of the ground all the wild animals and the birds of the sky he brought d friend and Helper and he and and he makes him a helpmate and God brings this helpmate to Adam and Adam’s like I dig I totally dig like that is amazing and then look what happens next Adam names the woman and this is a sign of (23:25) cultural Authority so Lord God caused a man to fall into a deep sleep and while he was sleeping he took the man’s ribs and he closed first surgery closed up the place with flesh then the Lord God made a woman from the rib and had he had taken out the man and he br y a song so don’t read it this is now bone of my bones and Flesh of My Flesh you should read it this is now bone of my bone Flesh of My Flesh woo and she she’ll be called woman for she was taken out of men let’s go I mean he was so fired up he was so fired up he went like pavara meets Sound of Music meets Broadway show and he’s like hello you know I be like this is amazing he sees (25:06) God’s creation for him and he can’t help but sing a name over her or is my dad’s CR joke said how did Adam n do a parenting series to kick off the the school year this fall it’s going to be epic talking about families and parenting and one of the parenting princip that I’m going to give you comes from this text when when Eve talks about the geographical location of the no she’s communicating a lot about the heart of God in relationship to Parenting because to get to the one tree that was a no in the garden they would have had to walk past 10,000 yeses God had given them to enjoy in the garden and so s he wife and goes look can you really trust him I mean Were You There When God told Adam that how do you know Adam is (28:08) not making that up to oppress you and suppress you maybe God and Adam have a deal where Adam’s getting more than you or how do you know that God isn’t holding something back from you and Adam all together did God really say undermining faith in God credibility of God by inviting her to consider her own reasoning as potentially higher than God’s gamet match apologetic for h headship it was Adam who sinned when he listened to the serpent tempt Eve and said nothing men God will hold you accountable for your wife’s bad thinking for her emotional immaturity for her need to get her needs met outside of God and you you can’t go (30:22) well I just married an emotional woman or well I just married an immature woman or I just married a traumatized broken no no no God’s going to hold you responsible for your wife’s Health it’s not enough to sit back and shell out money for e time in the church men they want to be sacrificial in their servant leadership which I don’t even like the phrase servant leadership anymore so I mean if it’s helpful for you great but it’s been so misused and I’ll see men throttle back their god-given power that they should be exercising to confront wrong thinking lies in the wife of their heart and say I know you don’t you don’t believe this you need to trust (32:07) me we’re going this way we’re doing these things we’re going to be about th :32) first man and he’s been asking every man the same question since where are you men where are you in your home where are you in your marriage where are you in the community where are you in the face of tyranny where are you in the face of toxic ideology where are you at the schools where are you in government where are you in business where are you in the church where are you is the question from God to the weak cowardly broken wimpy Ahab spirited men because what God is doing is calling men estimony is very clear that the role of headship was already in place that the role of helper was already in place and what the fall did (35:42) as a result of the consequence of their sin was not create the categories but corrupt them which means a part of being Redeemed by the gospel is that we reclaim these roles and redeem these roles not erase these roles and abandon them let’s look at the text verse uh let’s let’s call 16 of chapter 3 to the woman now now this is a result of the Fall he’s his feet she’s the one or what no no no no he doesn’t assign according to personality he assigns according to biology husbands are the head wives are the helper and then you bring your personality to bear in those two unique offices and live them out in unique and distinct ways so if the husband is (37:40) verbal and the wife is quiet he needs to tame that verbosity to bring out her thoughts so she can get her mind in the game to help and if the wife is verbal and the husband is more quiet she put inside her and all the capacity God’s given her so he’s like yeah she doesn’t help that much Dad bro that’s because you have never engaged her she is an untapped resource in your marriage you are a liability because you won’t shut up it’s not that sin creates these categories but sin corrupts s them and so what we want to do is we’re being Redeemed by the good news of the Gospel (39:32) is bring the word of God the truth of God the spirit of God to to display in our life so as to redeem wha today is wildly controversial and can be absolutely abused but it can only be abused if you pervert what I’m saying and misapply what I’m teaching and so rather than preach and teach to all of the abuses and caveats I want to preach to the standard and call all of us to rise to it because if all is I do is preach to the caveats and the exceptions all of you will begin thinking you are an exception and what I want to say is no no no we’re all exceptions in that we’re Sinners (41:04) there is a s and we’re like dear Lord we just lift up all the women who (42:06) are hurting today because they can’t have kids or because their mom was um you know stolen by Bandits and and held hostage and shot online you know and all this kind of stuff and and and and and and and then what happened the empathy police ratchet it up well you didn’t mention so and so and you didn’t mention such and such situation and cave out there an exception that and we’re like oh my goodness and so the next Mother’s Day g this to clarify and crystallize and separate good biblical headship from wrong biblical headship okay 11 reasons and I’m going to I didn’t put them up on the board because (43:45) there’s too many for you I’m just going to read them off to you here and if you can’t write you can’t keep up with your notes I will send them to you in the notes tomorrow so make sure you’re on the house news biblical headship number one biblical headship is not harsh controlling mean Authority it doesn’t Express it that headship role there with her very important nor is a woman obligated to submit as a helper to all men but rather to a singular man her husband number four biblical headship is not Paul making cultural concessions hear this all the time by terrible theologians well see Paul is making a cultural concession there so we (45:38) certainly couldn’t apply it to our day now because that wouldn’t make much sense to which the two-fold response to that horrible argument is as follows number one Paul number number five biblical headship is not arbitrarily interchangeable it’s not well okay we agree with headship but I have the stronger personality and he doesn’t want to lead so I’ll be head and he can be a stay-at-home mom that is not how it works it’s it’s as arbitrarily interchangeable as Jesus is interchangeable with the church you see he’s anchoring Your Role men His Head to Christ as your example to follow (47:27) in how Christ loves the church and that is interchangeable you can’t say lical headship is not assuming the authority of Christ over a woman no Christ is still her savior you are to be the means by which she experiences Redemption here on Earth as how you love her and take her to Jesus but you do not replace Jesus number nine biblical headship is not mean the husband initiates everything action this is very very important headship means husbands establish the pattern of initiation but it does not mean that they plan every detail and solve every problem otherwise the tor okay so she looks at one problem and sees 9 million Solutions I look at one problem and think hit the (50:16) gas charge fire the guns destroy kill overrun overpower win that’s what I think is a builder which is great until God gives you a 2-year-old and you can’t fire the Cannons overpower fire bu you got to go is there another way to solve this problem I’m not seeing babe because when I see a problem I view like a brick wall and I go and I run at as hard as I can and then I hit it and I ge umber 10 biblical headship is not optional meaning you don’t get to choose it you only respond to it so men nobody leaves here thinking about whether or not they’ll decide to be ahead the only question is if you will (52:13) be a strong capable God-fearing Spirit-filled Jesus honoring flourish bringing wife loving family strengthening stronger man that builds the family capital of the world or if you become a weak Ahab spited coward abdicating heavy-handed abusive wimp that destroys their marria e nailed to the cross pierced of the side and murdered publicly and shamefully so he could pay for your sin Jesus isn’t responsible for your sin but he took responsibility for it man you may not be you may not be the cause of your wife’s Brokenness but it’s your responsibility to be the solution for it (54:03) which is why in our definition with this a husband as head takes her flourishing personally if your wife is weak or emotional or immature or caty or a gossip or a slanderer or or or fear r hers and is that ethos imposture that will cause her to flourish when she knows without a shadow of a doubt you count her flourishing above your own you count her life greater than your own that she will begin to flourish as she feels that kind of love thirdly a stronger man loves his wife effectually Jesus loved the bride to make her holy the Bible defines love not as sentiment or feeling but as (55:44) action meaning your love for her are not words alone or roses when you screw up your love is r biceps which by the way who cares and you won’t take 10 minutes to read over her a proverb from the word of God you have the ability to do this you just need to prioritize the making of time or number five a stronger man loves her with purpose Jesus Christ presented the the church radiant without stain wrinkle or blemish your love should is not aimless your love has has has razor sharp purpose if you can’t write down a purpose statement for your love for your wife it might not be clear yet to her words stand up Play The Man and and pursue her so that if her needs change you’re we’re (58:34) driving to ca yesterday I was like has anything changed in how I I make you feel prioritized and my wife said well actually there has been some changes oh do tell and then she let me have it for a while you know in in in very well I I didn’t really that’s new like I need to be attentive to my wife as I would be my own body so because when I’m loving her it’s like loving my body so man this is jus start aggressively or loudly it starts humbly this path you are to walk as head is a path you walk humbly and it’s hard to do if you think head means boss it’s easy to do when you realize the head is Chief servant and so men I’m (1:00:14) praying that where there are men here in this room who have failed by dropping the ball of headship that you would sense even now in this place God’s unconditional love for you Grace for you and power to start new today literally on your way out to the parking ke of leading and loving our wives and growing strong families to grow the family capital of the world and I’m telling you if you trust God’s design you’d be shocked at the results so the law of his power is simply this manhood wielded for good father would your spirit be upon the men of this house would you give them Grace and power and strength to (1:01:52) live out a kind of manhood that brings about the flourishing of their wife and their families and we ask this in Jesus name”