How to Forgive

And Let Go

 

Understanding Hurt in Relationships

• Hurt is a betrayal and loss of trust from someone emotionally significant.

• Men and women experience hurt differently—women tend to internalize and hold onto hurt longer.

• Women’s hurt is often tied to safety, security, and insecurities, whereas men’s hurt is more event-based.

 

This video was all about how to handle hurt people, that hurt people.
It’s easier to have compassion on others, when we know we have done the same things others do to us.

 

Timestamps:

1. 0:00 Welcome
2. 2:03 Topic Introduction
3. 6:18 What is Hurt?
4. 8:09 How Good Men Feel Hurt
5. 12:14 The Rolodex of Hurts
6. 24:49 Letting Go of Hurt
7. 35:00 The Little Soul and the Sun
8. 51:27 Questions and Comments

 

 

 

Summary of “Hurt In Relationships: How to Forgive and Let Go | The Happy Wife School Show Ep. 27”

1. (00:01 – 01:58) Introduction & Housekeeping
   • Host welcomes viewers and sets expectations for respectful discussion.
   • Thanks moderators for managing chat and mentions the process for submitting questions.
2. (02:44 – 05:51) Understanding Hurt in Relationships
   • Hurt is a betrayal and loss of trust from someone emotionally significant.
   • Men and women experience hurt differently—women tend to internalize and hold onto it longer.
   • Women’s hurt is often tied to safety, security, and insecurities, whereas men’s hurt is more event-based.
3. (06:32 – 11:20) The Complexity of Women’s Hurt
   • Women have a “Rolodex” of past hurts, sometimes dating back to childhood.
   • Hurt in women is often influenced by unrealistic expectations and emotional sensitivity.
   • Society and family dynamics contribute to deep-seated emotional wounds.
4. (14:45 – 19:02) Codependency and Emotional Attachment in Marriage
   • Women create deep emotional dependence on their husbands.
   • Minor actions from a husband can feel like deep betrayals due to these expectations.
   • This emotional attachment can lead to resentment if not properly addressed.
5. (21:07 – 28:58) The Importance of Forgiveness and Letting Go
   • Suppressed hurt leads to resentment, which poisons relationships.
   • Holding onto hurt keeps a person in a victim mindset, preventing growth.
   • Learning to forgive and let go is crucial for emotional well-being.
6. (32:34 – 42:10) A Parable on Forgiveness: “The Little Soul and the Sun”
   • A story about a soul wanting to experience forgiveness, requiring another soul to wrong them.
   • The lesson: people who hurt us provide opportunities for growth and self-discovery.
   • Shifting perspective on hurt as a learning experience rather than a personal attack.
7. (46:32 – 51:56) Real-Life Application of Forgiveness
   • A story of a man struggling to forgive his wife, who found peace through the parable.
   • True forgiveness is about letting go of resentment, not just fixing problems.
   • Taking responsibility for one’s emotions rather than blaming others leads to healing.
8. (54:24 – 57:33) Q&A Session
   • Why external validation isn’t enough: self-perception must change first.
   • Acknowledgment that hurt is a universal experience.
   • References to historical and philosophical perspectives on relationships and hurt.
9. (57:33 – End) Closing Remarks
   • Encouragement to share the message of forgiveness.
   • Appreciation for the audience and announcement of the next episode.

 

Could you expand on? (06:32 – 11:20) The Complexity of Women’s Hurt

 

The Complexity of Women’s Hurt (06:32 – 11:20)

In this segment, the discussion focuses on how women process and experience emotional hurt differently from men, influenced by biological, psychological, and social factors.

1. Women’s “Rolodex” of Past Hurts

• Women tend to have a cumulative memory of emotional pain, almost like a mental “Rolodex” that retains past grievances.
• Unlike men, who often compartmentalize their emotions, women may unconsciously link current hurt to past emotional wounds (e.g., an argument today might resurface pain from a similar argument years ago).
• This ability to recall and emotionally relive past experiences can intensify their current emotional pain.

2. Sensitivity to Emotional and Psychological Safety

• Women often internalize hurt more deeply because emotional security is fundamental to their well-being.
• When hurt, it can trigger fears about abandonment, rejection, or unworthiness.
• Their emotional response isn’t just about the specific event—it can feel like a challenge to their sense of stability and self-worth.

3. Unrealistic Expectations and Emotional Vulnerability

• Many women enter relationships with unconscious expectations, sometimes shaped by societal norms, childhood experiences, or media portrayals of love and partnership.
• When these expectations aren’t met, it can feel like a personal failure, intensifying feelings of betrayal or disappointment.
• Example: A woman who was raised seeing a father dote on her mother may expect her husband to do the same. If he doesn’t, she might interpret it as a lack of love rather than just a difference in love languages.

4. Societal and Familial Conditioning

• Women are often socialized to prioritize relationships and emotional connection, meaning they invest heavily in emotional bonds.
• When those bonds are threatened, hurt can feel profound because it affects their sense of identity and purpose.
• Family dynamics also play a role—women who experienced emotional neglect or unresolved childhood wounds may unknowingly carry those emotions into their adult relationships.

5. The Challenge of Letting Go

• Due to the emotional depth with which women experience hurt, letting go can be difficult.
• Women may replay the hurt in their minds, seeking validation, closure, or a resolution that might never come.
• Forgiveness requires a shift in perspective—understanding that holding onto pain only reinforces it, while release can bring freedom.

This section of the show highlights that understanding the complexity of women’s hurt is crucial in relationships. It allows both partners to approach conflict with empathy, patience, and a willingness to communicate effectively.

 

 

Can you expand on?: (02:44 – 05:51) Understanding Hurt in Relationships?

 

Understanding Hurt in Relationships (02:44 – 05:51)

This section explores the nature of emotional hurt in relationships, emphasizing how different people experience and express pain based on their past experiences, personality, and emotional wiring.

1. Hurt is Inevitable in Relationships

• No matter how much two people love each other, hurt is unavoidable.
• The closer and more vulnerable you are with someone, the more potential there is for emotional wounds—whether intentional or unintentional.
• This isn’t necessarily a sign of a failing relationship, but rather a natural part of deep emotional connection.

2. Differences in How People Process Hurt

• Men and women often process hurt differently.
  • Men might suppress their pain or externalize it through frustration or distance.
  • Women may internalize it, linking it to past emotional wounds or insecurities.
• Some people need time and space to process, while others need immediate reassurance and discussion.

3. The Role of Past Trauma and Unresolved Pain

• Emotional wounds from past relationships (or childhood experiences) shape how we respond to hurt in the present.
• If someone has been betrayed, abandoned, or neglected before, they may react more intensely to even minor issues, fearing a repeat of past pain.
• Recognizing these triggers is crucial for avoiding unnecessary conflict and fostering understanding.

4. Hurt is Not Just About the Present Moment

• Often, what triggers hurt is not just what happened but what it represents to the person experiencing it.
• Example: A forgotten birthday or a dismissive comment might feel like neglect or rejection, even if that wasn’t the intent.
• Understanding that hurt is layered—sometimes tied to deeper emotional wounds—helps couples navigate conflict with more compassion.

5. The Importance of Communication and Emotional Safety

• When hurt isn’t addressed, it can turn into resentment, distance, or even emotional detachment.
• Creating a space where both partners feel safe to express their pain without fear of dismissal or judgment is key.
• Healthy communication involves:
  • Acknowledging the other person’s feelings (instead of being defensive).
  • Clarifying intent vs. impact (e.g., “I didn’t mean to hurt you, but I see how that made you feel that way”).
  • Offering reassurance and repair (validating their emotions and finding ways to rebuild trust).

Key Takeaway

Understanding hurt in relationships means recognizing that pain is often deeper than the surface issue. The way we process and react to hurt is shaped by our emotional history, and healing comes from communication, empathy, and a willingness to repair wounds together.

 

 

 

Can you expand on: (14:45 – 19:02) Codependency and Emotional Attachment in Marriage?

 

Codependency and Emotional Attachment in Marriage (14:45 – 19:02)

This section discusses the dynamics of codependency and the emotional attachment that often develops within marriages, particularly how these dynamics can lead to unresolved hurt and conflict. The focus is on how emotional dependency can shape behaviors, expectations, and the overall health of a relationship.

1. The Emotional Weight of Past Hurts in Women

• The speaker explains that, for women, emotional hurt can stem from various sources, including family relationships, friendships, and romantic partnerships.
• Even seemingly small or trivial incidents can trigger significant emotional pain, especially if they resonate with past unresolved hurts.
• For example, as the speaker reflects on her own experiences, she mentions schoolyard bullying, which seems trivial (like a comment about her appearance), but it had a lasting emotional impact that still influenced her later in life.
• This highlights how women hold onto past hurts and carry them with them into adult relationships, sometimes leading to overreacting to current conflicts.

2. The Role of Codependency in Marriage

• Codependency occurs when one partner becomes excessively reliant on the other for emotional support, self-worth, or identity.
• The speaker describes how, over time, she developed a deep emotional dependence on her husband, tied to her sense of identity and self-worth. This type of attachment can feel fulfilling initially but becomes problematic when it leads to unrealistic expectations and emotional manipulation.
• In a codependent relationship, one partner often feels that they cannot be whole or happy without the other, resulting in a loss of individual autonomy.
• This emotional attachment can be suffocating and unhealthy, particularly when one partner’s needs and emotions dominate the relationship.

3. Codependency as a Source of Resentment

• The speaker admits to moments when her codependent behaviors led her to make unrealistic demands on her husband.
• These demands stemmed from her expectation that her husband would always meet her emotional needs, even when he was dealing with his own struggles or emotional exhaustion.
• This creates a toxic cycle where one partner feels drained or overwhelmed by the emotional dependency of the other, while the dependent partner feels hurt or rejected when their emotional needs are not met.
• In this way, codependency breeds resentment, as both partners feel increasingly unfulfilled and frustrated by the emotional imbalance in their relationship.

4. The Harmful Impact of Emotional Attachment on Relationship Health

• When emotional attachment in marriage becomes too enmeshed, it can lead to significant problems in both partners’ well-being.
• Emotional independence becomes difficult to achieve, and both partners may struggle with feelings of insecurity, jealousy, or inadequacy if their emotional connection is not constantly validated.
• For instance, if the husband becomes emotionally withdrawn (perhaps due to work stress or personal issues), the wife may feel rejected or abandoned, triggering her deeper fears of not being valued or loved.
• This emotional insecurity can manifest in self-sabotaging behaviors, like becoming overly demanding, withdrawn, or defensive, which only intensifies the relational strain.

5. Recognizing and Breaking Free from Codependent Patterns

• The speaker touches on how difficult it is to break free from these codependent patterns, acknowledging that it’s a process of personal growth.
• She admits to her own shortcomings in this area and reflects on how she had to acknowledge her codependency in order to begin healing.
• Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward rebuilding a healthier, more balanced relationship. It involves understanding that both partners need to cultivate their own emotional independence while still being able to offer support and connection.
• It’s essential to establish boundaries that allow both partners to have individual space for growth and self-care, rather than relying on each other to meet all emotional needs.

6. The Dangers of Losing Individual Identity in Marriage

• The speaker points out that when individuals lose themselves in their marriages, it can lead to emotional burnout. The focus on the relationship can overshadow personal development and individual fulfillment.
• In her own experience, she highlights how her own sense of self-worth became tangled in her husband’s behavior, meaning that if he was unhappy or distant, she felt the same.
• This emotional enmeshment means that personal growth and self-love are neglected, leading to unresolved issues and frustrations that affect the relationship as a whole.
• A healthy marriage requires mutual respect for each partner’s individuality and the recognition that one partner cannot “complete” the other.

Key Takeaway

Codependency and excessive emotional attachment in marriage can be destructive. While it’s natural for couples to rely on each other, maintaining emotional independence and healthy boundaries is crucial for a relationship to thrive. Recognizing codependent patterns and working to build a more balanced emotional dynamic can help create a more fulfilling and resilient relationship.

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Title: “Hurt In Relationships: How to Forgive and Let Go | The Happy Wife School Show Ep. 27”

 

Transcript: “(00:01)

All right hi everybody. Welcome to the happy wife School show. Happy Saturday. Happy weekend wherever you are around the world.

I’m excited to be here uh and get started if you guys as always wouldn’t mind just taking a moment and letting me know that you can see me hear me everything is is working well out there uh and then we will get started in our uh our topic today as always I want to give a a shout out and a big thank you to Phil Evo and Steve out there moderating the chat and keeping the chat constructive so guys make their job easy (00:43) uh please be respectful on topic um and supportive in in the chat and if you you know if if if you don’t agree with my message that’s okay healthy debate is is welcome but this might not be the channel for you and that’s okay that’s a great thing about YouTube there’s lots of channels and perspectives out there so you can find what works for you so don’t be here to be a troll or cause trouble or Phil uh stepen Evo will will will will be o n it uh so let’s see loud and clear thank you Phil fantastic um and thank you all for being (01:23) here today I will look at the chat at the end of my show and Evo is looking out for questions to send me so I can can address some questions at the end of the show um to make his job easy it’s best to put questions in at the end since I’m going to look at the chat then uh and uh if you can put like an all caps question or uh a small uh Super Chat is great because it it stands the question out with lots of bright colors um so save those uh toward the end or if you put them in in the middle of the show make it clear so Evo can capture (01:58) those and then he emails them to me and look at them that way but I’m so happy you guys are here uh and we are going to be talking about today hurt and relationships and how to forgive and let go and the reason I want to talk about this is this has been an important a really really important part of of my own Journey uh as a woman and as a human to be able to grow into to the best version of myself to be able to live my own core values and virtues to be able uh to be kind to be able to grow and learn through life and not (02:44) suppress emotional pain and recently I’ve been doing more work on hurts because as you will find as we get into the show today uh that as women we make hurt very very complicated and have a lot of suppressed hurt that we have collected Through The Years starting with our families with first relationships of course wi th our husbands with our kids uh with friends uh we get hurt very very easily as women and we hold on to a lot so I’ve been I’m I’m a I’m a work in progress as you guys know as we all are uh that I I don’t (03:24) claim to be perfect or above uh the things I talk about on my channel uh that I am human not a machine and I’m committed to myself to keep growing in life and growing in myself and continue to evolve as a woman and keep growing toward the best version of myself which means I got plenty more work to do and will uh throughout my life and so recently uh I’ve I’ve been given the gift uh to to to go deeper into myself and and look at hurt so it’s been a topic that has been on my mind and has been very close to me and a very (04:05) important part of my own journey and and so I want to share a bit of that with you today and and where we’re going to go first is just talking about what is hurt uh and understanding what hurt is and how women and men experience hurt differently and as my my mentor and I meet uh we were all I work with my mentor and his partner Peggy and uh a close friend and colleague of mine Josie uh which you guys know she’s moderated before we’re and she has a a wonderful YouTube channel that she’s getting started um it’s escape the Alternative (04:39) Health Matrix so if you haven’t go check her Channel out she’s got an incredible perspective on autoimmune uh disease and chronic illnesses and mental health so if you haven’t checked out her Channel you sho uld um Josie’s uh incredible at what she does and very passionate as well and a wonderful uh wonderful presenter in her videos but we all work here in an office and David and I that’s my mentor we get together uh usually Fridays and and Saturday mornings to start preparing for my live show and as we were talking about this concept of (05:11) hurt today and I was talking about my uh my hurts and the things that have hurt me through my life whether it be from my husband or family members or friend s or total strangers I’ve never even met uh he was like I am overwhelmed he said I feel really bad for you women he said cuz my experience as a as a good man with hurt is very different and wow I had no idea you guys were holding on to so much inside of you and have made made hurt so convoluted so we had a good chuckle so I want to spend some time talking about those differences and and (05:51) helping women understand our hurts and also helping the good men out there understand the complexity o f a woman is hurt and why your wife can be hurt so easily then we are going to get into how to forgive and let go and and what the solution to hurt is whether you are a man or a woman uh so this is a broader broader topic for everybody today and let’s start with a little bit about what hurt is and and and like I said hurt’s different for men than it is for women so a a more what I what I know in working with men and then (06:32) and like I said talking with my mentor this morning knowing myself as a woman working with women um they’re different and so a simple definition of hurt before we get into the complexity of a woman’s hurt a simple definition of of hurt is is when we’re hurt by someone uh it is a betrayal and a loss of trust from someone that we have an emotional connection and ATT attachment to so I understand for for Good Men hurt really more comes from close friends from Family of course from your wife potentially your kids and they tend to (07:12) be tied to more major life events or or major circumstances that hurt will stem from as women our hurt is much more complex our hurt stems from a betrayal and loss of trust but also we hold on to hurts that have happened that threaten our sense of Safety and Security and we also hold on to hurts that stem from being shamed and and and words or actions that are directed to our insecurities so whereas a a a man’s list of hurts that he hasn’t let go of might be a a a short list uh as women in the complexity we make hurt our ily before the family unit or uh a mother showing favoritism or a mother shuning a son because she doesn’t approve of his life (09:23) path or the choices and decisions she is making and feels hurt and betrayed by him so she hurts back a good man might be hurt uh by a dad who doesn’t support his direction of life or um and of course the hurts that happen in marriage for a good man a wife not understanding and accepting a good man for who he is of course his wife having a an affair or an emotiona mily around the holidays that can create a lot of hurt within the family uh we have expectations that we should always support and validate a person’s feelings and stance in in an event or circumstance even if you don’t agree or you have a different opinion that you’re (11:20) always supposed to have somebody’s back regardless of their experience and whether you agree or not we have expectations that you shouldn’t or can’t say hurtful things in a fight or a bad argument uh expectations that you o use it now but the Rolodex women have a Rolodex of hurts and when I’ve looked at my roll aex of hurts not just in my marriage but through life my Rolodex of hurts went back to when I was like four or 5 years old and in the me the Vivid memories I would have of of getting hurt I remember there’s um a girl I went to school with and I was in third grade I think she or I was in second grade and (13:17) she was in third grade and she came up to me one day in the cafeteria and told me that I had the ts (14:45) and things that seem really kind of silly and dumb we hold on to and and that hurt stays very very very alive within us and and the deeper experience of hurt for us as women and why we get so hurt by people’s words and actions and you know of course especially in a marriage is we already and I I talk about this a lot through my different videos and shows we already feel bad about ourselves on the inside um and and different choices and decisions we make that dismiss who we are that di y husband who has wonderful intentions is a very good man uh would never ever maliciously or intentionally hurt me it was it it was (16:54) kind of mindboggling of like why did that why did that hurt me so bad but what I teach and and what I know through my own experience is that as women we really create a deep codependency uh in our marriages and and other relationships too but very much with our husbands we create this codependency where we just become just totally am mesed in our husbands an ho we need you to be and it’s the deepest betrayal through our lens and eyes as women that we can go through and that’s why we become so selfish and so self-centered in the relationship that I was thinking through you know the times that I have not been (19:02) at my best in my marriage and that I would pull things out of my husband my my husband had a job for a while that was very taxing it was a very toxic environment and it was very difficult for him emotionally and and he went through a a a t say or do as a personal attack on us and then we never let go so a very fundamental difference between good men and women is that a good man of course can be hurt and doesn’t always know what to do with that hurt and how to let go and will suppress it and then might disengage from the relationship might withdraw uh might do things outside of his character but it’s never meant as a malicious attack or (21:07) retaliation against his wife for how she has hurt him for us as women because of our w a genuine process to (22:37) be able to forgive and to be able to let go because suppressed hurt it leads to resentment which is poison to a relationship if we don’t resolve our hurts that’s creating the lens of which we see the relationship it creates the lens of which we we see life and so it’s very important I would say very critical as women we learn a process of of Letting Go and forgiving because not only do we have that suppressed hurt but we can be so vicious in our retaliation of the hu ause of the Rolodex of hurts we hold on to but also for men to really be able to to have a way to forgive and let go genuinely and so (24:41) that’s where I’d like to go next now that we’ve looked a little bit about the differences between hurt for for good men and and hurt for women let’s start to get into how do we how do we let go of hurt and and I really want to give some framework around this and this has been my journey and path and the the first place I I want to go that I’ve been talking d we also have to embrace it as a window into what are the unrealistic expectations that we have in life and have in our relationships that set us up to get hurt we want to understand that when we are hurt and we suppress our hurt and we don’t let go and we don’t find a way to (26:52) forgive we are only hurting ourselves because when we live in that internal hurt and we have those suppressed hurts the poison is within us because we have to keep that emotional charge Al life uh that emotional ch go and we don’t forgive and Camp victim something has been done to me or someone has done something to me that has caused me to be hurt and that’s the experience of myself it’s happened to me that’s where we’ve given our power away and we have no control to move forward and we have no control to change and as a victim blaming others for our experience of hurt as a victim we actually want to keep our hurts alive (28:58) and we want to keep them as a protective mechanism in life as women the prote pt hurt as a part of life as a part of marriage as a part of family as a as just a part of living in this world that that hurt is a part of it and we like I did have to be given a choice to either be a victim to that hurt and this has happened to me or to live in a place of taking responsibility of what is it about me what’s the insecurity Within Myself what are the unrealistic expectations that I have that have caused me need to feel so hurt it doesn’t mean that people haven’t done hurtful thin represents our unrealistic expectations and life and different relationships and this hand under uh represents the reality of life (32:34) that life is not fair and and there’s all kinds of hurts that are going to happen in life but the further away our unrealistic expectations are from reality in the gap between these two is what creates all of my emotional turmoil and all of my emotional hurt when I can see the reality of life and reality of relationships and close this Gap that’s where I act row and learn and then the other person and other people get the benefit of it so I I want to share with you guys today i’ I’ve mentioned this before and certainly my students know about this story um but the process that really taught me to forgive (34:40) that I like to teach others that allows us to be in Camp take responsibility and move out of Camp victim when it comes to our hurts is a lovely little Parable in book I’m not going to read the whole thing I’m going to paraphrase it but there had so many hurts it was such a relief and such a freedom to know there was actually a path forward and and actually a way to truly truly let go so I’d like to to paraphrase the story a little bit for you and then I I encourage you uh to order the book I think it’s like $15 $17 on Amazon and it’s lovely the pictures are lovely and it’s just a a a very just a very sweet story with a very (36:37) very powerful message so the little soul in the sun I’m going to paraphrase and like I said there’s a since you not see yourself as the light when you are in the light because in God’s kingdom all there is is light God says we will surround you with darkness and the little soul asks what is darkness and God replies it is that which you are not and the little soul says okay and God explains that in order to experience anything at all the exact opposite of it will appear it is a great gift God said because without it you can not know what anything is like not you can not know what anything is lik to know himself as in his light and he gets very excited and he says I want to know myself as (39:53) forgiveness and God says that’s a a beautiful special gift to know yourself as he said there’s one problem in order to know yourself as forgiveness you will need someone in your life to forgive and so another little soul pipes up and she says I’ll be the one I’ll be the one to that you can forgive and these two little Souls make an agreement and a pact to come into life and learn from each othe aught me to forgive to no longer learn to no longer look at how people had hurt me as a a Smite against me or something done to me and being a victim to it but to embrace it as a gift that that person (42:10) has been exactly who I asked them to be so that I can become who I am in my light and I can become who I am meant to be and who God created me to be that I could never become without the adversities and hurt through life this is the process of Letting Go that we can only let go when we embr cceptance in the face of hurt or in the face of someone doing something that feels like a betrayal when I can find that depth of strength in myself and respond in my light and the gifts that I have that we all have in ourselves if we are willing to find them then there never becomes anyone that I need to hold any against (44:29) and and forgiveness becomes and the process of Letting Go becomes thank you for giving me this opportunity to grow and learn Within Myself and become stronger in who I a had had with his wife as a good man and he reached out asking me can you please meet with us I I want to be able to resolve these issues uh so that she and can go in peace and I can be in peace and I had about a 30 minute conversation with this man and I I shared with him the little soul and the Sun and that the true path forward for him and his wife to have resolution in their marriage as she was um on her way out of this life was forgiveness and (46:32) acceptance and uh a few I’d say probabl to the little soul in the (47:44) sun I was able to see my wife in a completely different way true forgiveness of her actions had always been difficult for me to do because I wanted the issues fixed not for forgiven however thanks in no small part to the talk you had and as well as the little soul I found it now incredibly easy to forgive her and to also forgive myself for my many shortcomings when it came to how I dealt over the years with the issues that arose in our marriage and he put in all e for us in this life so thank you so much for joining me today uh this was a a topic I was looking forward just to teaching about (49:53) and and having a a teaching moment for all of us today because we all struggle with hurt and really knowing how to truly forgive so I hope this spoke to you and gave you a path forward to be able to forgive and let go of the hurts that you may be holding on to if you haven’t already please like this video uh consider sharing it if you know someone who could b um so I am just going to uh take a a look here um I am going to pull up Evo I know is in the process probably of sending uh an email or two with questions and and comments uh yeah oh great question Luke hi Luke thanks for being here and all of your (51:56) support I’m going to get into to some questions here uh Luca says why can you validate the insecurity tell them they are enough no matter what but it still is not enough wonderful wonderful question thank you so much if we do not individually usband saw me which was he even in my bad behaviors and toxic behaviors before I learned to outgrow those and and do better and I’m again not always perfect he still always saw the wonderful parts of who I was but I felt so bad about myself because of all the things I knew I wasn’t doing and all the ways that I was showing up that were not in alignment with who I wanted to be or or or being the good (54:24) person I knew I could be so could never hear my husband he could tell me I was beautiful :38) just want to say thank you for everything you do you’re very very welcome uh hi Karen Alberto here from a little village in Italy so nice to have you I have to say uh publicly thank you to your videos I can understand what is happening with my wife thank God I found your Channel I’m so happy you are here uh and I look forward to meeting with you in a few weeks oh great Michael Sawyer hurt is a normal part of life Mike drop oh good it is it is there’s no way we can escape it so thank you guy leep on the pitch of a roof than in the bedroom with a quarreling wife so there are other uh philosophers and other quotes like that (57:33) from all different time periods all over the world that also for me validate and give credibility to that these are Universal these are Universal issues so that has been my experience and some people have a different opinion and that that’s all right uh hi salty combat diver nice to have you on the chat today um I love seeing all all the names uh pop up uh u guys next week uh thanks so much bye”