10 Ways Women Emasculate
Their Husbands
Often times without knowing or
recognizing what they are doing.
This Needs to be understood & changed.
Note: Many of these 10 behaviors are quite common, and regularly accepted in modern culture. But it is not modern culture that defines how to transform our lives according to God’s Word and His Ways through His heavenly covenant relationships.
The work of building eternal and everlasting friendships in Christ commands us to pay attention to the WAYS the world has tried to shape and conform us into its image–and then to overcome it.
We are to identify worldly ways, and purge them from our lives.
Even accepted and practices ways in the homes we were raised in, and in the world all around us–need to be exposed and reomoved from our lives.
When we truly identify their destructive nature, it helps us to overcome them, and not bring their destruction into our families and marriages.
This is another one of those difficult messages. Most difficult messages are the most important messages to heed. Why? Because not heeding them invites destruction into our lives and enables us to sabatoge the calling that God has ordained for us to fulfill.
Before diving into this hot topic, here’s a song of faith. May it
tenderize the heart, and open the spirit, to receive heavenly insight
that grace may increase and the face of our current trials.
This video clip is less than 6 minutes …
May this clear presentation and simple description of a problem, be the beginning of a solution for all involved in the restoration of a broken relationship between a husband and his wife. Light brings healing when combined with faith and grace. May God give you His heavenly patience in the process.
Summary of “10 Behaviors That EMASCULATE Men in a Marriage”
- Withholding Sex (00:34) – Denying intimacy makes a man feel unwanted, unneeded, and strips away his sense of masculinity.
- Withholding Fun (01:10) – Women often lose their fun-loving, spontaneous nature after marriage, making their husbands feel trapped in a joyless relationship.
- Withholding Affection & Approval (01:44) – Becoming emotionally cold and failing to appreciate a husband’s efforts can be deeply emasculating.
- Being Controlling & Dismissive (02:23) – Constantly trying to change a husband, dismissing his feelings, and being moody can create an unstable environment.
- Emotional Volatility (02:56) – Frequent mood swings and unpredictability make husbands feel like they’re walking on eggshells, weakening their confidence.
- Demeaning Men’s Interests (03:32) – Criticizing or belittling hobbies like sports, video games, or social activities makes men feel disrespected.
- Forcing Emotional Vulnerability (04:06) – Pressuring a husband to share deep emotions, then using them against him, makes him feel weak and unattractive.
- Mothering Husbands (04:48) – Treating husbands like children instead of capable adults undermines their sense of independence.
- Invalidating Their Feelings (05:17) – Dismissing a husband’s emotions or telling him he’s wrong to feel a certain way makes him doubt himself.
- Erosion of Masculinity & Marriage Destruction (Overall Message) – These behaviors collectively weaken a man’s identity and are the leading causes of marital breakdown.
The above 10 behaviors, are critical to understand both by the husband and the wife, in order to eliminate such destruction that is common in most marriages that have conflict.
Before continuing, there’s a little comedy relief for married couples.
Here’s a little pick me up Song:
Instead of providing a transcript of the “10 behaviors” message, I’ve added a second video that covers much of the same territory, but may be a little more in-depth presentation between a husband and wife, Family leadership team.
Go to original video by The Fierce Family (The Fredericks)
5 Surefire Ways to Emasculate Your Husband
The Unique Power of Women
“Women have a unique power to encourage or tear down the men in their lives.”
- The discussion highlights that women, particularly wives, possess a significant ability to influence their husbands’ emotional and psychological states through their words and actions.
- Positive encouragement can be uplifting, acting as a motivating force that empowers men, whereas negative words can deeply affect and diminish their self-esteem.
- The speakers share an understanding that husbands often feel that their wives hold a “direct line” to their hearts, emphasizing the weight that a wife’s words hold compared to others in their lives.
- Encouragement from a wife can create a sense of partnership, reinforcing the idea that a husband thrives when he feels supported and proud to have his wife by his side.
The Problem with Modern Views on Masculinity
“We don’t think masculinity itself is toxic; it’s the sinful expressions of masculinity that can be problematic.”
- The conversation addresses the contemporary claim that masculinity is inherently toxic, clarifying that it’s not masculinity itself that is the issue, but rather how some men manifest their masculinity in sinful or damaging ways.
- The speakers also point out that toxic expressions exist in femininity and that these behaviors stem from societal sin.
- They suggest that issues arise not from embracing traditional roles but from rejecting responsibilities, which can lead to harmful dynamics within relationships.
The Importance of Mutual Pride in Marriage
“Don’t tell him that you’re proud to be his wife, and you’ll certainly emasculate him.”
- The speakers caution against withholding pride in a husband, stating that expressing pride in one’s spouse fosters a supportive environment.
- This discussion highlights that a lack of gratitude or recognition can lead to feelings of inadequacy in men, emphasizing that comparison, especially in the age of social media, can poison marital relationships.
- It is urged that wives should attempt to cultivate gratitude for their husbands, recognizing their inherent worth and contributions to the relationship.
- Celebrating a husband’s accomplishments and expressing contentment strengthens bonds and reinforces mutual respect between partners.
Distinct Motivations in Gender Roles
“Young boys tend to prove their strength by climbing tall things and lifting heavy rocks, while young girls gravitate towards creating relational spaces.”
- The discussion begins by contrasting the different tendencies of young boys and girls, highlighting how boys often engage in activities that showcase physical strength, such as climbing and lifting, while girls tend to focus on relational activities that foster connection and home-making.
- This dynamic extends into adulthood where men often seek to impress their wives through strength and capability, desiring to be perceived as strong, even if they may not hold the title of the “strongest man in the world.”
The Role of Belief and Support in Relationships
“Pride in your husband involves appreciating his past and present, while believing in your shared future together.”
- The speaker emphasizes the importance of believing in one’s partner and supporting them as they grow. This includes recognizing their efforts and believing they will improve and provide for the family without being defined solely by past failures.
- A wife’s belief in her husband can foster confidence and motivation, creating a partnership where both feel secure to face challenges together, provided that there is a strong foundation of communication and trust.
The Impact of Conditional Love
“If you constantly love your husband conditionally, you refuse to show him love when he falls short.”
- Conditional love, characterized by withholding affection based on a spouse’s performance or behavior, can undermine a husband’s confidence and sense of masculinity. It implies that love is earned only when he meets expectations.
- The speaker argues that true love should be unconditional, focusing on giving support and affirmation regardless of shortcomings, which strengthens the emotional bond between partners.
The Challenge of Trust and Emotional Responses
“It’s so easy to respond emotionally instead of taking a step back and reminding ourselves what God’s word says about us.”
- In relationships, especially marriages, emotional responses can often derail constructive communication. Individuals may react based on feelings rather than insights gleaned from their faith.
- It’s essential to remember that both partners are created in the image of God and are worthy of love, despite their imperfections or failures.
The Call to Forgiveness
“My sin against Christ is way more than his sin against me, so there’s no way I can hold on to unforgiveness and bitterness.”
- Forgiveness is a cornerstone of healthy relationships. Recognizing that one’s own shortcomings are greater than those of others can foster an environment of grace and understanding.
- Holding on to unforgiveness not only harms the relationship but also contradicts the forgiveness one has received through Christ, emphasizing the importance of letting go of past grievances.
Unconditional Love in Relationships
“Love is saying, ‘I’ve seen all the ugly parts of you and still I will stay.'”
- Unconditional love is about accepting your partner wholly, flaws and all. This commitment enhances the bond between spouses and reflects the love that Christ shows to humanity.
- By expressing this kind of love, partners encourage each other to grow and improve, thus creating a cycle of positive reinforcement in the relationship.
The Role of Marriage in Reflecting God’s Love
“Within the covenants of marriage, we can love each other in a way that reflects the gospel.”
- Marriage serves as a tangible expression of God’s love, allowing couples to experience and extend grace and forgiveness.
- This unique bond is designed to mirror the covenant relationship between Christ and the church, reinforcing the idea that love should be unconditional and sacrificial.
Responsibilities Within Marriage
“All these things do not negate the husband’s responsibility to love his wife on God’s terms.”
- While the discussion emphasizes encouragement and mutual respect, both partners must uphold their responsibilities. Husbands are called to love their wives unconditionally, regardless of circumstances.
- It is vital for each spouse to fulfill their roles to strengthen the marriage and reflect God’s love appropriately.
Invitation to Experience God’s Love
“If you’re not a Christian and you don’t know what that love means, we want to invite you to experience that love of God through Christ.”
- The message of the gospel is open to everyone, regardless of their past. It offers a pathway to understanding God’s love through a relationship with Christ, which provides a foundation for loving others.
- Engaging with the faith and connecting with a community can be instrumental in experiencing transformative love and support.
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