5 ways Women Gaslight
Their Husbands
Here’s a good song to put you in the mood,
before you tackle this heavy subject:
Talk about a heavy and sensitive topic.
This is one subject that needs to be handled in a humble, sensitive, and patient manner.
If someone is doing the gaslighting thing, chances are good, they are not aware of it, nor do they want to be aware of it. Chances are good there are deep wounds involved, and deep hurts affect relationships deeply. With deep hurts, come deep secrets. With deep secrets, come fears of being exposed, and multiple layers of deception, being used as layers of protection. All of this smells bad. All of it spells out trouble for anyone trying to pierce the hard shell of pain, and heal the wounds that have deep scar tissue all over them.
So yes, anyone dealing with the principles and presence of gaslighting in a relationship needs to tread carefully, yet confidently. For that person will be under a consistent amount of attack until the wounds are cleaned out, and the gaslighting hateful behavior is overcome, and the victims wounds are healed, and the captives are set free.
A big problem in this process is that one person’s wounds, can trigger another person Wounds. That is where patience, grace, humility, long suffering, deep forgiveness, and the ongoing presence of covenant relationship are needed to create an atmosphere for the healing process to begin.
Once the inner behavior has been exposed, we need to de-fang the enemy–and keep him from biting again and injecting more poison into an already deeply problematic wound.
The beauty behind handling this problem is that those who walk in the light will be set free.
That’s a promise from heaven. And it will not be denied.
If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth: But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin
{ALL SIN = all lies, all deception, all depression & confusion, all accusation, all controlling secrets–in essence: everything that harms and hinders relationship in Christ, as well as complete freedom in marriage, and the beauty and Majesty and heavenly gratefulness and the pure spirit of continuous joy, and deep confidence, and never ending supply of humility–that God has promised to those who will submit to him and follow his word faithfully, they shall receive the kingdom of God.
“Blessed are the poor and spirit for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”}.
When God heals an individual, that healing takes place on a plain of eternal depth and presence. There is a total countenance change, and a deep working of transformation from the inside out. Once the lies have been exposed and identified, they can quickly be dispatched.
Like cutting the head off the snake, the immediate danger of that snake is over, but there may be siblings or little children of the snake still around that need to be cleaned out, also. Therefore, we are called to be diligent and persistent, in the way we walk into the light. It is important to be thorough in the work of healing the wound.
This is one of those cases (dealing with the spirit of gaslighting), and one of those places that long lasting, genuinely true positive results can happen “only” if the individuals involved want positive results to happen.
See this 1 minute clip if this needs more clarification.
The way we personally show up in a relationship,
is simply a mirror of who we really are,
and what we are dealing with on the inside.
Here’s a good song to put you in the mood,
before you tackle this next heavy subject:
This Is What Every Wife Should
Know to Save Their Marriage
Of course the topic above and the topic below are both two-way streets. It takes the effort and resources of two people to enter into a healthy long term (need I say eternal) covenant relationship in Christ.
And yes, we should all know we have an enemy that hates these kinds of relationships. Why? Because they are so extremely fruitful and powerful at destroying all of the enemies strongholds of lies, wickedness, and deception. Why is that? Because they have the glue of the Kingdom of God holding them together. That is if they truly believe in and keep their covenant with God…
Therefore, our enemy is continuously laying down booby traps, and IED’s (Improvised Explosive Device), in order to destroy God’s Heavenly Ordained and Especially Covenantal Relationships. One of his major devices is accusation. For short clip on this click here: Who is the accuser in the room?
I pray that everyone who sees the moment to listen to this testimony of being set free from a major mountain of snake invested, and snake infested lies, and patterns of behavior, will truly be set free in their own lives as well.. Once a lie has been exposed, and once the behavior behind the lie is identified, it has only one of two places to go deeper into the darkness, or to come clean into the light. My prayer for myself, and everyone else is that we all come into the light as he is in the light that we may expose the enemy slice lies and overcome every device and trap set up to destroy us.
Just as he has promised if we would follow him.
Again: Here’s a good song to put you in the mood,
To tackle this next video:
In the Light
Again: Here’s a good song to put you in the mood,
To tackle this whole scenario:
Where would I be without you?
“5 Ways Your Wife Gaslights You”
A Quick Summary:
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(00:00 – 01:45) Definition of Gaslighting in Marriage
Gaslighting is defined as the psychological manipulation of a good man over time, making him question his own thoughts, reality, and memories, leading to confusion, self-doubt, and dependency on his wife. -
(01:45 – 03:07) Purpose of Gaslighting in Marriage
Gaslighting is used to make a husband believe he is the problem in the marriage and the source of his wife’s unhappiness. It helps validate her internal struggles while making him doubt his perception of reality. -
(03:47 – 04:34) Gaslighting Sign #1: Feeling Incompetent at Home
Despite being capable and successful outside the home, a husband is made to feel inadequate and like a failure in his marriage and fatherhood. -
(05:26 – 06:24) Gaslighting Sign #2: Forgetting You Are a Good Man
The husband is manipulated into believing he lacks morals and integrity, convincing him that he is the cause of dysfunction in the marriage. -
(06:24 – 07:13) Gaslighting Sign #3: Believing You Are Abusive
The wife provokes anger and then frames the husband as aggressive and in need of help, despite him being calm and controlled in other areas of life. -
(07:13 – 08:04) Gaslighting Sign #4: Undermining Parenting Style
The wife portrays the husband’s disciplinary actions as harmful, making him appear as the “bad guy” and turning the children against him. -
(08:58 – 09:43) Gaslighting Sign #5: Shaming Sexual Needs
The husband is made to feel guilty for wanting a healthy sexual relationship, while the wife justifies disengagement, making him believe this is normal. -
(10:34 – 11:07) Courses for Men and Women
The speaker offers courses: one for women to resolve internal issues and improve relationships, and another for men to regain confidence and navigate marriage constructively.
“5 Devious Ways Your Wife Gaslights You”
Transcript: “
(00:00) so I have found a a definition that does a really good job of Simply describing what gaslighting is I have changed some of the words to be aligned with marriages and the Dynamics between women and good men so this is what gaslighting is gaslighting is the psychological manipulation of a good man over an extended period of time that caus causes him to question the validity of his own thoughts perception of reality or memories and leads to confusion loss of confidence and self-esteem uncertainty of his emotional (00:48) or mental stability and a dependency on the perpetrator his wife more simply put gaslighting is a psychological tool to manipulate your mind to conform to your wife’s reality that fits her projection of you a psychological tool to manipulate your mind to conform to your wife’s reality that fits her projection of you the next place I would like to go in talking about gaslighting today and helping men understand what’s going on in their wife’s mind and helping women to understand so that we can wake up and change is five ways that your wife (01:45) gaslights you again to help men see it because it’s very difficult to see and as we get into this reminding you that the purpose of gaslighting is to doubt your own reality what you know to be true and doubt the reality of your wife and your marriage and your perception of what is happening the mechanism of gaslighting that your wife uses manipulates you into believing that you are the problem and you are the source of her unhappiness and in that it’s really important to remember and I I I I I know i’ I have some videos that go more in (02:23) depth into this but just a a simple reminder it’s important to know that in spite of your wife’s facade when you met and how she presented herself as happy it is important that you remember she was unhappy when she got married the unhappiness never went away but the facade she could not keep up and she had to create a reality of what has caused her to be unhappy and so gaslighting is one of the tools she uses to validate her internal experience of unhappiness and how you have caused it so as I go through these five ways (03:07) that your wife gas lates you if this is you you must know that your experience is because you’ve been gaslit if you are a good man and you are experiencing any one of these it is because you have been gas lit and again shaming is the primary mechanism of gaslighting to make you feel broken and flawed at the very essence of who you are you don’t need to know all the hows and mechanisms cuz we have a bag full of mechanisms to do this so I’m not going to get into the ins and outs of that or those just that your wife is gasla you (03:47) and here are five ways to know so that you can see the reality and break out of the delusion that happens when she’s causing you to believe that these things are true so number one of how you can know your wife is gaslighting you is as a good man knowing that you are successful and capable at work and your life outside of your marriage yet at home your wife has made you feel incompetent in your role as a husband and a father how good men experience this is that nothing you do is right nothing you do is right nothing (04:34) you do is Ever Enough it never fixes anything gaslighting is the psychological tool that has convinced you that you can’t do anything right at home and that you are a failure as a man at home you want to know this so that you understand gaslighting is the reason you are doubting your reality that you are a capable responsible adult in the context of being home and in your marriage number two of how you can know you have been gaslit you have forgotten that you are a good man you have forgotten that you are a good man with (05:26) integrity and morals and this your wife has convinced you that the behaviors in your marriage are characteristic of not being a good person and that you are at fault for the problems and the dysfunction in the marriage gaslighting is what she uses to make you believe that this is true so that you doubt your own reality that you are good-natured good-hearted fair and genuine number three the good-natured man you are has been exploited to convince you that your wife is unsafe and may be in an abusive relationship I’m going to repeat that (06:24) one the good-natured man you are has been exploited to convince you that your wife is unsafe and maybe in an abusive relationship how this occurs in the gaslighting is that your wife has poked you and provoked you to be quick to anger and have aggressive behavior and in that often wants you to get counseling or help for Anger Management the men suffering in this way have a very difficult time understanding because outside the marriage and in life they are not aggressive or quick to anger are emotionally controlled within (07:13) themselves but their wives gas late them to believe that they are an aggressive angry uncontrolled man who needs help gaslighting is what she uses to make you believe this is true so you doubt your own reality and experience of yourself that you are a gentle man who is emotionally controlled within himself the fourth way your wife gaslights you she turns your parenting style of consequences and discipline as inappropriate and harmful in this one she will turn the children against you and create an environment where you are (08:04) the bad guy and often make your children afraid of you gaslighting is what she uses to accomplish this objective so that you doubt your own reality that you are a good father who loves his children wants the best for them and is trying to teach them how life works and number five you are made to feel wrong for your desire for regular engaged sex your wife gas lates you to make you feel wrong for your desire for regular engaged sex she makes you believe that your di desires for sex are Neanderthal like and that you are (08:58) undesirable and then she also gaslights you to believe it’s okay for her to not to want to have sex or that sex isn’t something you continue in a marriage you reach an age and life is busy and life goes on and makes you believe it’s okay that she’s disengaged and doesn’t want sex anymore and that that is perfectly normal she uses gaslighting to make you doubt your own reality and what you know to be true that sex is a healthy normal part of a marriage and that your wife has a responsibility and her commitment (09:43) and in being a wife to stay engaged with sex so those are the five ways your wife Gast lates you if any of these are true and and there are many more that these are the most common that I discuss with good men of their experience and their marriages and if any of these five are true you can know you are being gaslit by your wife and not to be a victim but to understand the reality of what is happening so again you are not sucked in to the vortex of crazy making that is happening as your wife makes you believe these things are true (10:34) hello again thank you so much for taking the time to watch today for those women listening who know you are the problem and you want a path forward to change your woman ways and truly be happy in yourself I have a course for women called the happiness program and the happiness program teaches you to resolve the unhealthy relationship you have with yourself so that you can be the solution to the issues and challenges in your marriage and your life you can find the link in the description below to learn more about the course and apply to (11:07) enroll for the good men listening who want a way to take back the power you’ve unknowingly given away to your wives I also have a course for you called the marriage rescue course for good men only and the course teaches you how to rebuild your strength and confidence so that you can navigate the relationship with your wife in a healthy constructive way again you can find the link below in the description to learn more about the course and apply to enroll again thank you so much for watching today and I look forward to seeing you again soon”
It is well worth the effort to have a family recognize and identify toxic patterns and behaviors that are common in modern society, but have no place in the kingdom of God.
Note: Families with Happy Healthy Mature Cheerful Mom’s and Dad’s reproduce incredible self confident and often highly successful and skilled children.